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Many people are confused because they feel obligated to invest much of their energy into the family that they were either born or adopted into. This is an illusion. In ancient times, family members spent most of their time on survival needs and stuck together to stay alive.
Today, most of our time is spent on our personal development. Our tribe is spread out to prevent a sort of spiritual inbreeding. Therefore, we may find that some or none of our family is truly part of our tribe. The important thing is to avoid investing in a relationship that is motivated by obligation or guilt, regardless of your socialized relationship to the individual. People often remind us of family members with whom we have unresolved conflicts. These family members are usually not even members of our tribe, but we feel obligated to fix these relationships because of society's messages about the importance of the traditional family. This urge to fix instead of let go often guides us towards people who have similar traits to unhealthy family members. This is how we often find ourselves in unhappy relationships.
Work amongst your tribe or alone.
Sometimes you may feel a need to work alone as part of your spiritual path. If not, you would most likely benefit from working with people who are members of your tribe.
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